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You can't always be a porn star, but you can always be a writer, and commentator. And right now, you are pretty first order in those areas - perhaps even more than where you're earning you're daily bread.
I first came across your posts some months ago on a different site and while the interest began as virtual prurience, I now stop in every now and again to catch a glimpse of somebody finding an interesting path.
I'm also a fairly public person. I don't get naked on streaming video, but let's just say that if you google my name in quotes and the company I started 12 years ago (and IPO'd three years ago), you get a couple thousand hits from interactions across some 10 time zones. So sticking my gmail account name up would potentially have some counterproductive effects in current circumstance. So, yes, will stay anonymous - sorry about that.
But suffice to say, you are one impressive young lady and I look forward to seeing your evolutions over time. With your obvious brains and your equally obvious looks, you really could rock the world when you find your true metier. And you'd better be writing a book - you're too good for this to be your only medium.
If you can accept a final anonymous compliment, you are the real deal, in ways that at your age you probably won't understand for a little while more. Don't let it slip through your fingers.
Why do you think people choose to talk shit about porn and pornstars? Obviously they've watched you perform and more often than not probably enjoyed it. i think it falls to some of porns most "marketable" (for a lack of better word) stars to change this image. Girls like jessica drake and Sasha Grey and you. To be honest, I didn't know much about you and while I won't say I know you now just from your blog, I can say that it's changed my opinion of you. I no longer see you as just another pornstar fucking in front of a camera for whatever they're personal reason, I actually find you insightful, sarcastic, and charming. It shouldn't matter what one does for a living should it?
First of all: Well said!
Secondly, my desire to stay anonymous has to do with all the different ways one can be attacked through the internet (ie., identity theft, worms, etc.), which is why I don't participate in the social networking sites.
However, I am confident that I have never written anything on the web that I wouldn't be comfortable saying to someone's face. It comes down to a personal ethical choice--as you pointed out, you reveal who you are by your behavior when no one else is looking.
Third, I would echo the sentiments of carb1 and cato5. You clearly are multi-talented.
On an unrelated and selfish note: I have done some screen-writing. What is the best way to find contact information for your management or production company?
By posting this you are merely acknowledging the hate and lies of others, especially given you addressed a similar topic in a post several days ago in regards to rumors and gossip. You're just letting the idiots from the last post win.
Sometimes its important to clarify, but there is no needed clarification here.
It serves only to validate what they're doing in the sense that the actions of one or several individuals garnered a response, I know you know this, but Porn Star or not I think you're better than that.
sigh
I'm only going to remain anonymous because it's socially unacceptable for me to post on a blog such as this. With that said, a while back I was looking for the blog of any porn star to have find some insight on the industry. I happened upon yours and found you to be a very interesting and intelligent person. Honestly, I will continue reading your blog no matter your vocation, because your philosophical side intrigues me.
"Kayden,"
On both of the sites where we've interacted (and yes, because of this post, the number is now two), I've used my name. We even exchanged emails a long time ago, and that address includes my name. Coming from someone eating and breathing a pseudonym, I should be given a medal for courage.
What do I have to do to get you to think I have balls? A DNA sample? My Social Security Number? Should take off all of my clothes?
Today I'm going to make an exception to the reason why I heckle you and I'm not going to directly dissect the socio-babble that is the content of your post. Are you sure that you didn't just tweak a humanities assignment and call it a blog post? As the old (okay, new, since I just made it up) saying goes: you can wrap duct tape around a handful of pebbles and call it a rock; but it's still just a handful of pebbles. I guess it should be proud of myself for making it so, but it too obviously panders to your apologist's reason for being here. Those guys who want to believe that they like you because they like smart girls. You make it a point to be known as smarter than all of their other fantasy girls. You're useful in that regard - and it spares you from having to do footjobs and bukkake - but it still comes with a price.
That price is risking attracting someone like me as a regular reader. (
So I'll only say that both you and I know, since we've discussed it, that I'm the apologist who realized he could stop being one, learned what it took to do so, and set out to do it. I know that scares you - because it means it can happen - so you call me a coward. But I just can't believe this part: you really think that your readers like you? That's almost more pitiful than needing them for grocery money.
Hmm, I guess today I ended up meeting my reason for heckling you afterall...
Grant
Kayden, well said.
One of the many reasons I love ya
Kayden... You've got some creapy followers these days...
Pay no attention to Grant. The truth is that I like you and network with you because you would be m,y type of friend even if we were in real life and not just at present on the internet or whatever. You are gorgeous intelligent charming clever and wise.It is the fate of drivel that cannot do what you do to voice whatever stupidity they wish. They are pitiful at best and are self-destructive to hate so freely.
I think and am sure you're wonderful in every way. Very balanced as well as very beautiful.
Christopher,
Have I ever denied that "Kayden" at least sells the image of a girl that any guy in his right mind would love to have as a friend, if not a lover? That has never been my point.
My point has been that despite that fact, there is not, and never will be, enough "Kayden" to go around.
Isn't there some girl as equally worth having somewhere within your realm of possibility? Why not chase after her? Or, if you don't have the confidence or the resources or whatever, why not get it? Instead of pretending like you do by reading "Kayden's" blog, work up the courage to compliment someone you can actually have. Just don't tell "Kayden" that. She is counting on you never getting it. She'd just be a waitress if you did. Sure, she'd put up a fight - and tell you "if you don't like my blog, don't read it" - but eventually, she'd just be a waitress.
If you want to consider my commitment to remembering that fact - by reminding myself (and her, and you) of this fradulent short-cut we all try to take - as self-destructive and hateful, feel free. But it is what it is.
Grant:
I agree with you that us fans of Kayden should chase after women within the realm of possibility and start getting laid. Absolutely.
I have a friend now for over two years and am very happy with her.
However, I think you under estimate the intelligence of Kayden's followers. Do you really believe that we all think we could hook up with Kayden as a friend or lover? We are smarter than you think Grant. Most of us are under no such illusions, and many of us may have girl friends, women with benefits, or intimate women friends.
What you do not understand, Grant,
is how deeply some of us love Kayden unconditionally and how much we genuinely like her. I have known many women in my life, but when I met Kayden last Sacramento in October it was like no meeting I have ever had with a woman in my life before. She totally overwhelmed and floored me and I was weak at the knees and had to catch my breath. I did not know anything about her or who she was. All I knew is that she was someone deeply special, and that I would stay in contact with her if I could. It was one of the two or three strongest 1st impressions of a woman I have had in my life. Have met her 5 more times in the last 6 months and sent her many outfits. She has worn every one and thanked me.
I can truly say that she is one of the nicest and most fascinating women I have ever met and she has never been anything but friendly and kind to me. And she has done two custom videos for me that came out of a dream I had in Portand last January. She is what dreams are made of.
I, and most of the members of this site, have no real feeling or understanding that we could ever be a friend or more with Kayden. Sex with her, millions to one long shot.
I did meet up with her in a dream one night and it was heaven Grant.
If you have ever had the deepest dream of a woman, and you joined her in that dream, is celestial and close to God. Real sex could not come close. Kayden is special.
Shakespeare would write about her.
I know where this blog came from. Grant, I certainly have personal reasons for being here. Nobody, or at least not me, is saying that `knowing' Kayden is a conventional friendship or friendship from around the corner- at least not straight away if one hasn't met her personally; and a person may never become friends with Kayden in the conventional sense if she doesn't want that. For me, distance and geography would preclude a conventional friendship let alone anything else. And, yes, we pay to be part of Club Kayden.
But Club Kayden is an entertainment, it's sexual fun and games, or perhaps just great videos and pictures to look at and download- whatever. We pay for an entertainment that Kayden is willing and able to provide; she enjoys what she does and so do we. We can, still, become friends within that context.
You cannot comment on the Club Kayden Message Boards and not interact with people. That interaction leads to friendships, friendships where we have something in common, friendships- or even aquaintances, if you prefer- that are based around Kayden and Club Kayden.
For me, it is impossible to read Kayden's comments to her fans, where she expresses genuine opinion or just a sense of fun, and not develop a liking for a very charming, likeable person. When Kayden blogs the effect of liking, admiring or just understanding her (even if or when we disagree) is the same. And, of course, I'm not stupid enough not to realize that any initial liking of a pornstar is a physical one.
Insight can bring liking, liking can lead to contact and contact can lead to friendship. That friendship may have boundaries and limitations but it is still a friendship. This is the same for Kayden as it is for any other person we may have contact with.
I'm not here to marry Kayden. I do count Kayden as a friend.
This was a very well considered blog Kayden. Thank you.
Well said Glenn and Firewall.
Grant, just because we all all here and professing our love and friendship for Kayden does not mean that we do not have a significant other(s) in our lives.
I have met Kayden on several occasions and while I many times call her "my future wife" I have no illusions that would ever come to be. I am a fan of Kaydens and enjoy the times I do get to meet her. But I certainly do not consider myself to be a close friend or even a friend for that matter. I am very happy that Kayden knows me when I do get to see her but it certainly does not go beyond that.
We as fans are proud to profess our love and friendship for Kayden. Maybe that is a concept you have failed to grasp.
As for your remarks about Kayden being a waitress. First of all tell me what is so wrong about being a waitress, or is this just some other misguided sterotype that you have. If you know anything about Kayden you would know that she is a very intelligent young woman who is capable of doing whatever profession she chooses.
very very nice k2! its why being "online" is such a temptation - alot of wonderful sights, sounds and people until you realize people are still people and just love to shit in a new yard. keep up the wonderful blog and the people who love it will always be here.
Beautifully said Carl and Firewall.
kayden,
i am a young female, and i read your blog because i really admire you. i love reading what you have to say, and it's awesome that someone so beautiful is so intelligent but cool at the same time. i envy your beauty and confidence. i look up to you.
Thank goodness for a woman's comment too> Welcome sugarmagn0liaaa
Sugarmagnoliaa, don't envy Kayden's beauty, emulate it perhaps; I'm sure you have beauty of your own :)
Grant-
You seem to want it both ways. On the one hand we're all idiots for wanting to waste our time fantasizing about a woman we'll never have. On the other hand you seem to be desperate to prove yourself to Kayden with your perverse attack strategy. "How do I prove to you that I have balls?' By being the "heckler" amongst all the complimentary bloggers? You seem to constantly wish to denigrate her worth as a human being ("just a waitress" is apparently an insult in your mind), yet you care so much that she acknowledge your own worth. It's at least ironic, at worst sick and twisted.
And why wouldn't Hayden think that her fans like her? All of the commenters on here that have met her agree that she comes across as friendly, kind and smart. I'm sure she is smart enough to understand the limits of that "like".
Your criticism of her fans is like telling people who like Angelina Jolie or Megan Fox that they are, for that reason alone, losers.
I'll be honest enough to say that I'm homely and fat and that if Kayden ever even said hello to me on the street I'd be shocked.
So am I supposed to not be attracted by her beauty (and brains, yes) and find some woman as fat and unappealing as I am just to conform to your idea of how society should work?
I've tried to be anonymous, but I kept forgetting passwords and screen names, who the hell can remember all that shit? I need my brain for a lot more interesting things, like, watching porn and stuff.
I have an anecdote, met this person a couple months ago, told her my name and gave her my email. Couple days later she says: "You should have a "private" name and account so that no one knows everything you do." She numbered all of my interests, personality traits, websites I frequent and the ones I don't update long ago. She says: "It's just so you know how anyone can know everything about you." I said: "Who the hell would want to know anything about me if it weren't for people who actually know me and/or people who I don't mind them knowing what they want about me? It's not like I'm fucking Paris Hilton (fucking as an adjective not a verb, well, any of them gets the point across), a terrorist or a guy that needs to rant compensating for my lack of social interactions proving everyone how smart and analytical I am, behind a keyboard." Dammit, I forgot what was my point, good thing I'm not on drugs. Had something to do with anonymity, privacy, voyeurism, fetishes, porn, Grant, Kayden, Fucking! That's it, my point was about fucking. What about it?
Oh and yeah you're cool, and smart, you know, the usual. Although, I don't know, I kinda feel bad for being surprised at your smartness, but enough, if I keep babbling I may make a fool of myself. Good thing I didn't bring my big words repertoire, aw crap.
PS. I'm happily married, not fat, not a member of Club Kayden, neither pay for porn. Sorry I'm fucking your industry (no pun intended). And I prefer reading Kayden than watching her fuck.
Just in case, you know, any of you stalkers care. You know who you are.
Fuck the naysayers. It's hard when it's directed at you, but you're right...they wouldn't say anything like that to your face. People do vile things to each other when they are protected by either a crowd or a keyboard.
Sex or no sex, this is the most entertaining blog I've read.
Keep it up.
Matt
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